FAQs

I began professionally coaching individuals in 2006, and my history of working with people to achieve their goals dates back to my college years. After college, my career put me in many management positions where I worked with individuals to help them achieve their job-specific or company goals. Wherever I worked, people would seek me out for support, advice, feedback … or because I offered them a space to think and make their own connections about what was important to them. After working for nearly 20 years in some of the biggest companies in the world (and some of the smallest family-owned businesses on Long Island), I chose to start my own coaching business and help people work toward and achieve their own meaningful personal and professional goals.

My divorce coaching program is designed for men of all ages whether they are going into, currently moving through, or just coming out of a divorce.

I work best with someone who knows they need to do something to deal with their divorce but may not have any idea what that something is; who is frustrated with the type of “help” they’re currently receiving regarding their divorce; who thinks they might be ready to make a change; who simply needs an objective person to turn to; who thinks they may not be able to move forward on their own and is open to working with a coach. My best clients “show up,” work hard at keeping an open mind, do what they commit to doing, are willing to trust, and recognize they are human and going through one of the most difficult episodes in their life. In short, my best clients are sick and tired of being sick and tired and are looking for a way through the fog, even though they have little to no idea how to do that or what might be waiting for them on the other side.

First, I am a real-life actual trained and certified coach. My biggest pet peeve is seeing/meeting a professional who calls him/herself a coach—but really isn’t*. Second, I’ve actually been through an unexpected divorce and successfully moved on. Not everyone offering divorce coaching has personally experienced a divorce. Their approach is more, what I call, clinical. I’ve actually been through what you’re experiencing and I survived. I have also been using a pioneering (since 2007) brain-based coaching approach that uses foundational neuroscience research about how your very human brain works (Disclaimer: I’m not a neuroscientist and I’m not a psychologist/psychiatrist–I’m a coach who works with how your brain works to help you get the results you want faster in a way that truly works for you). Even though it’s not brain science, it’s close and there is a method to my madness. ANd finally, I was doing this WELL before the “field” of divorce coaching exploded.

*For more on the differences between coaches and other professionals, see What is coaching on the International Coach Federation (ICF) website.

It depends on what you need. For starters, you can simply leverage the resources online. If you decide to add the divorce coaching, we’ll work by phone or video call at the level you choose and we’ll start by assessing where you are in the midst of your relationship: having relationship trouble, in marriage counseling, moving into separation, currently separated, talking about divorce, moving into divorce, engaged in process of divorce, coming out of divorce… From there, we’ll determine what are your needs based on our proprietary DC4M 7-Step Process. Once we’ve determined where you’re at, we’ll start to examine where you’d like to go (this can seem extremely challenging due to The Fog of Divorce): it could be very short-term (daily/weekly) goals or more intermediate (monthly) goals. Every person is different. Once we’ve started to clear away some of the fog, we’ll track your actions and determine what’s working and what’s not and course-correct to help you regain balance, focus, and happiness in your life. We can work from one session to the next as the need arises or schedule a set of sessions over any length of time (I recommend 6 months minimum).

Divorce Coaching for Men is completely customizable to your needs (and budget), from just one coaching session to a series of sessions leveraging our approach/tools/resources over any nyumber of months you deem meaningful.

Working with a coach is like joining a gym — you get out of it what you put into it. The more open you are and the more committed you are to yourself and your future (I call it your NewLife), the more you will get out of it. I’ve worked with men who experienced more focus, more balance, clearer direction, quicker momentum, more clarity, increased fulfillment and happiness through our work together. It depends on how prepared you are to take some level of control back over your life.