It seems everywhere you look lately, there are signs of confusion and doubt about the economy and where things are heading. Confusion causes fear and fear causes people to make bad decisions. (If you’re interested in the brain science behind that, give me a call at 516.216.4233).
Couple this with the fact that money issues is one of the primary contributors to arguments in relationships and you can guess how all the bad news might be impacting marriages.
Yes, divorce seems to be on the rise in this time of uncertainty and fear.
So what can you do about it if you find your marriage succumbing to this overly negative environment? >>>>>>
One: recognize that emotions are driving a lot of what is happening and emotional decisions are usually bad decisions. Identify your emotions and take control back.
Two: Think back to the vision of why you got married in the first place. What was it that brought both of you together? What are you trying to accomplish as husband and wife? What are your dreams and goals?
Three: Focus on your similarities. What do you have in common? What draws you together? What is working in your marriage?
Four: Think about what you have to gain by staying in the marriage and what you have to lose by giving up on the marriage.
These four tips are a good place to start working on things if they’ve gone off track.
Of course, no amount of ideas or tips is enough if your partner isn’t willing to do the work with you. If that sounds like your situation and things in your marriage have gotten cloudy or downright dark, now might be a good time to pick up the phone and call me (516.216.4233) or send me an email (paul@divorcecoaching4men.com). I’ve been in your shoes and I’ve made it through. I might be able to help you find some clarity and momentum in the midst of your situation.
Remember, it’s darkest before the dawn.
Ciao for now,
Paul McGinniss
The Divorce Coach 4 Men
paul@divorcecoaching4men.com
516.216.4233
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